Valentine’s Day isn’t an easy day for people going through or recently divorced. With all the discussion of couples and love, it’s easy to get a bit down. We’ve seen it happen many times, and we have some tips that might help. Here’s some great advice on getting through Valentine’s Day during a divorce.

Celebrate Valentine’s Day for You!

If you try to avoid acknowledging the holiday completely, you’re bound to fail. Instead, try to embrace Valentine’s Day for yourself and do something special. Get yourself some flowers, go to the gym, or do something special for yourself. The key is keeping yourself busy, and trying to find your own way to find joy in the holiday. If you don’t like to be alone, reach out to other single friends for a night out!

Social Media Isn’t Helpful: Stay Away!

It’s tempting to turn to facebook or instagram when we’re anxious or trying to avoid something. However social media is a bad idea on a day like Valentine’s Day. You’re likely to see a lot of pictures of happy couples, which isn’t helpful. In fact, recent studies suggests that heavy social media use can actually make us more romantically jealous. Avoid the urge to check up on your ex or other couples, and spend the time doing something you love.

Separated And Working on the Marriage?

If you aren’t yet divorced, but you’re separated, consider a less romantic option to get together with your spouse. Planning an event with family involvement, like a picnic or trip to the zoo, can help lead to a friendly time out with less tension or anxiety than a private date.

Getting Through Valentine’s Day During a Divorce

Even with all this preparation, Valentine’s Day will still likely be tough for your first year or two. If you find ways to celebrate for yourself, avoid social media, and involve family, your holiday can be a lot less of a downer! If you appreciated this advice, make sure you subscribe to our newsletter using the form on the right to get more great advice delivered right to your inbox every month.