A lot of people wonder when it’s okay to start dating after divorce. The truth is, there is no easy answer. The answer depends on your situation and a few different factors. Some people move past divorce quickly and start dating. Other need longer to process things before they start dating after divorce. Here are a few considerations you should keep in mind.

Don’t jump in too quickly.

Whether you feel it right away or not, divorce will have changed you. Everyone needs at least some time to recover and heal from the stressful, sometimes drawn out process. Take some time to grieve and don’t rush into dating. It won’t help you recover, and it may make things worse. If you’re really having trouble moving past your spouse or pain, consider seeking out professional help from a therapist or counselor. The key is letting go of anger and resentment so you can start fresh. Everyone is different. It could take you months, or years, before you’re ready. Patience is everything.

When you’re ready, figure out exactly what you want.

Once you feel like you’re ready to date, make sure it’s for the right reasons. Are you looking to just stick your foot in the water and feel things out? Or are you feeling pressured to start dating again? Make sure it’s what you want, not what you think everyone thinks you should do. You don’t have to start looking for a life partner immediately either. Take more time to have a little fun. Something short term may end up being something long term regardless!

Make sure you are honest with yourself.

Start new relationships fresh, and limit bringing along baggage from your divorce by being honest with yourself in the first place. Is your ex dating and making you feel pressured to date? It’s something to consider. Don’t let dating distract you from your kids, and don’t introduce someone to them who isn’t a serious prospect, as a breakup can be jarring for kids. Lastly, consider things like your past dating history, values and faith, and make sure you let them guide you as you re-enter the world of dating after divorce.

Dating after divorce is possible, when you’re ready for it.

Remember to take your time when it comes to dating after divorce. Make sure you’re ready emotionally, and then figure out what you want. It’s key to be honest with yourself to make a new relationship work. Do you have any advice about dating after divorce? Share a comment below with your thoughts.